I've been married 18 years. We almost got divorced a few times.
Was it a good decision to get married, or a bad one? Depends on when you ask, right?
So then why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to make the "right" decision, like there's some magical answer out there that’s going to fix everything?
I don’t think decisions are these huge, life-altering moves that determine if we're going to be happy or not. They’re just steps we take based on who we are and what we feel at that moment.
There's no right or wrong, just us being us.
Every decision you make? It's just a reflection of where you are right now. And that's awesome because it means you're being true to yourself.
Remember all those times we were stuck trying to make a decision and it felt like the end of the world? And then we made a choice and realised it was totally fine, or even great?
Remember also those times when you decided you screwed up and made a mistake? You didn't die, did you?
So next time you have to make a decision, just take a breath and think about what feels right for you. Don’t worry about getting it right or wrong.
Ask yourself, questions like:
What feels true to me right now?
What would make me happy right now?
What do I fancy most right now?
Then work on making sure the decision is the right one. I'm still married:)
Love,
Monica